A Father’s Day message to my husband

I’ve been trying to think of something profound to write for Father’s Day this weekend.  It’s hard to be profound sometimes.  I’ve blogged about my husband before.  For example, I told you back in March of 2012 how he was settling well into being the father of a girl (still very true!).  I told you last month how dads, my husband included, are not imbeciles when it comes to parenthood.  Way back in October of 2011, I even wrote a letter of thanks to my husband from our kiddo.  I’m not on this parenthood journey alone.  I’m not on this life journey alone.  In August, my husband and I will celebrate our 15th wedding anniversary.  We’ve come a long way from where we were as newlywed college kids.  We’ve made a life that we’re in the middle of living.  And it’s a blessed life.  It’s a good life.  It’s filled with lots of love and laughter.

But in the midst of that love and laughter, there are struggles.  And sometimes we miss connecting the way we used to before we were parents.  Neither of us would give up our children for anything in the world.  We love them so deeply and profoundly.  They have changed us, mostly for the better, in getting us even more out of ourselves.  But they also changed us in distracting us from one another sometimes.  That’s our reality right now with a 1-year-old and 4-year-old.  I’ve been thinking of what I want to make sure my husband knows that I don’t always get a chance or think to tell him.

– You are an awesome dad.  There is no one on the face of this planet who is better equipped to be a dad to our children than you.  You love them, play with them and provide for them in so many ways that I can’t.

– You think of things I don’t even see that helps our family.  You’ve identified issues both of our kids have had before I saw them.  You keep me on track in thinking of what we need to do now to prepare them for the future and shape them into great people.  You come up with solutions to problems I have that make our life run more smoothly.

– You are still my one and only and always will be.  I’m sorry when I don’t always act like it.  I’m sorry when I get distracted by our kiddos from showing and telling you how much you mean to me.  I’m more in love with you today than I was the day we got married, but I don’t get a chance to show it nearly as often.  I wish that was different right now and I’m sorry that it’s not, but I promise you that I know each and every day how blessed I am to share my life with you.

Sometimes both kiddos like to pile on my husband. He doesn't mind being their own personal jungle gym!

– You are the strong arms of this family.  Of course that’s true in the literal sense (thanks for doing the literal heavy lifting!), but it’s true in the emotional sense as well.  While God is the center of our family, as He should be, you are the leader of our family in quiet, strong ways.  You keep me from sitting on the floor sobbing sometimes.  You calm our children when they are upset.  I know girls can be crazy emotional and sometimes your daughter and I leave you shaking your head is disbelief, but you still comfort us when we need it.

– You’re so stinking smart.  I’ve always thought of myself as a smart person.  I did well in school, got two college degrees and all that jazz, but you are just innately smart in so many ways.  You see solutions to problems I didn’t even know existed and I respect you and appreciate you for that.

– You keep our house running smoothly.  While I may manage the household, you keep the roof over our head from leaking (quite literally a few months ago when you patched part of it) and can do handy things like install ceiling fans, USB outlets and deal with our sometimes wonky plumbing.

– You show up every single day.  You don’t have to be here, but you are because you are a good man.  I feel blessed that you can work from home often and are glad to do so.  I appreciate and love how you see the fleeting nature of childhood and you don’t want to miss any more of our kids’ childhood than you absolutely have to.

– You’re not perfect, but you’re perfect for me.  If I’m being completely honest, of course there are times when you drive me a bit crazy.  I know without a doubt, I drive you crazy sometimes!  But, you are the perfect counterpart to me.  I look at you and still see the cute 16-year-old boy I first fell in love with and the now 30-something family man who you’ve become.  I see in you my past, my present and my future.  I can’t imagine life without you.

And for all of these reasons and so very many more, I say thank you.  I thank you, my dear husband.  Happy Father’s Day!  And I thank You, God.  I am blessed.  I am so very blessed.

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