Virtual motherhood

I often wonder how moms existed before the Internet.  Who did they talk to?  How did they find answers to their questions?  I still talk to my mom and ask her questions.  I talk to my mother-in-law and sister-in-law and ask them questions, but I would be lost without my online support.  And I don’t think I’m the only one.

Whether it’s moms in my favorite, private group on BabyCenter.com or friends on Facebook with kiddos, I’ve found that connecting with them and knowing what they are going through is helpful.  Back in the pumping days, I’d have been lost without the Internet.  It was my best distraction for getting through session after session.

I’m astounded at how close I have become to some of these women from all over the United States and even South Africa.  They offer advice, support and inspiration.  When my daughter went through her crazy phase earlier this week that I think was teething, a growth spurt and shot reaction all at once, these are the women who assured me she’d return to normal.  And some commiserated with me as their babies were behaving the same way.

Being a mother can be lonely sometimes.  I found that to be very true in the early days when I was at home for exhausting days and days on end.  And when I was up in the middle of the night while the rest of the world seemingly slept as I fed my baby and then pumped milk for her.

But, that loneliness is still there at times.  As humans we long to connect to one another.  Virtual worlds make that connection easier.  I can “talk” to my virtual mama friends when is best for me — meaning when my daughter is asleep.  I don’t have to worry about my hair or my clothes or anything.  It keeps me connected.  Sometimes it keeps me sane.

Virtual motherhood, so to speak, is perhaps the way my generation is surviving parenthood.  It may be different from how our moms did it, but it’s working.  And I’m thankful for the connections I’ve made.

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